CEDTalks

"Why you bother me when you know you don't want me? Why you bother me when you know you got a woman? Why you hit me when you know you know better? Know you know better" SZA, "Love Galore" Wish I could tell you, SZA. We don't know what we're doing. Relationships. It's the hardest and most rewarding job a man can ever have. King Kong...ain't got sh*t...on relationships. Last week, I finally got around to watching the recent Denzel Washington film Fences with my family. It was signature Denzel; with the help of fellow stars Viola Davis and Mykelti Williamson, the movie delivered a strong depiction of the challenges and sacrifices of family life. The crazy thing was, it simultaneously reinforced yet redeveloped my perspective on family and committed relationships. Davis and Washington's relationship identified the unique layers of love. It spoke to the beauty in fantasizing of days past and enjoying each other's company; conversely, i...

Being the guy in a new relationship is like...a rookie entering the NFL. Though you've done this before, each time you play for a new team (female), there is more at stake. You bust your butt in the pre-draft workouts (dating), say all the right things in interviews, and get drafted (boyfriend status). Play well, and everyone takes notice (ex-girlfriends, girls you were talking to, and girls you wish you met while you were single). No one, however, is happier than your team, because in the league, all they are playing for is a ring (wedding). The immediate success of RGIII is similar to what most  new boyfriends seek to have in their relationships. For me, I finally made it to the league. Highly touted as a charming guy with a nice personality and  ability to throw deep (literally and figuratively), critics still questioned my toughness. In addition, many ladies subconsciously debated my ability to be a franchise player, the guy that would p...