Since the age of 7, I aspired to be the "perfect" man. My goal was to be recognized as driven, successful, romantic, funny, and attractive (not in that exact order). In my head, no woman would EVER turn that down...lol. Over the years, I've realized no one is perfect, but that these attributes were attainable. As a bachelor, I seek a woman who desires a man with those qualities, and identifies those traits in me.
When on dates, I love to initiate question games. They are great ice breakers, and you learn about people without the mundane questions ("Where you from?", "What school did you attend?") My favorite is best/worst; you give a person a topic, and they give you their opinion on the best and worst thing about that subject. I'll ask about school, being black, even sex. Depending on the person, I'll ask them to give the best/worst about me. For the best, I get various answers; I'm funny, or sweet, or the occasional sexy. The worst is always the same: "I don't really know what your worst is."
As as 18 year old, this answer would be perfect. The issue is, however, relationships with the majority of these females never developed. This begs me to question, what is the correlation to the ladies not recognizing (or not verbalizing) bad qualities in me and my status as a single man? This inquiry had a domino effect; it led to more questions. Are the women lying to me? Do they view me as "too good"? Is the relationship too young or too vain to ask at this time?
To eliminate the latter, I asked a close friend, who at the time, was a girl who I viewed as girlfriend material. Therefore, her answer would have more validity. I asked her a slightly deeper question; to her my inquiry was "Would I make a good boyfriend?" Surprisingly, she answered yes, and cited me possessing the traits I desired as a kid as reason why I would be a good man.
In all honesty, her answer has confused me more. If this is so, then I shouldn't be single! Am I progressing as I should, or is a drastic change needed? Is my issue timing, or approach? These are all questions that I battle on a daily basis, and finding the answer would help me in establishing a positive relationship with a lovely lady. Growth is necessary, and with it opportunities become more common. Take the time to analyze not only your surroundings and those in your surroundings, but yourself as well. Oft times, we are the thermostat as opposed to the thermometer; we can change the climate instead of the climate changing us. In those changes we may find just what we've been looking for. The idea of that happening...is picture perfect.
When on dates, I love to initiate question games. They are great ice breakers, and you learn about people without the mundane questions ("Where you from?", "What school did you attend?") My favorite is best/worst; you give a person a topic, and they give you their opinion on the best and worst thing about that subject. I'll ask about school, being black, even sex. Depending on the person, I'll ask them to give the best/worst about me. For the best, I get various answers; I'm funny, or sweet, or the occasional sexy. The worst is always the same: "I don't really know what your worst is."
As as 18 year old, this answer would be perfect. The issue is, however, relationships with the majority of these females never developed. This begs me to question, what is the correlation to the ladies not recognizing (or not verbalizing) bad qualities in me and my status as a single man? This inquiry had a domino effect; it led to more questions. Are the women lying to me? Do they view me as "too good"? Is the relationship too young or too vain to ask at this time?
To eliminate the latter, I asked a close friend, who at the time, was a girl who I viewed as girlfriend material. Therefore, her answer would have more validity. I asked her a slightly deeper question; to her my inquiry was "Would I make a good boyfriend?" Surprisingly, she answered yes, and cited me possessing the traits I desired as a kid as reason why I would be a good man.
In all honesty, her answer has confused me more. If this is so, then I shouldn't be single! Am I progressing as I should, or is a drastic change needed? Is my issue timing, or approach? These are all questions that I battle on a daily basis, and finding the answer would help me in establishing a positive relationship with a lovely lady. Growth is necessary, and with it opportunities become more common. Take the time to analyze not only your surroundings and those in your surroundings, but yourself as well. Oft times, we are the thermostat as opposed to the thermometer; we can change the climate instead of the climate changing us. In those changes we may find just what we've been looking for. The idea of that happening...is picture perfect.
The Perfect Plex was my move lol!
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